Two Mistakes I Hope You Never Make

Episode 53 of the seanwes podcast was my first podcast. Ever.
I consumed it all and freeloaded until I was told that I was a freeloader.
I paid for a one-month membership (to the seanwes community) and didn’t use it.
Mistake#1

In 2012 I “overlapped”, before doing so had a name. I worked a full-time job (that didn’t exhaust me) and I saved enough money to live on for a year. I quit that job June of 2012, and ten months later an injury forced me to move across the country, back home with my mom, exactly what every 33 year old wants. Not.

I had a choice, anger or action.
I chose action. I chose action after a month of sulking. Mistake #2
When the sulking was over I taught myself WordPress, plugins, and enough html and css to make a respectable website. I borrowed my brother’s camera and learned photography basics. I wrote blog posts, newsletters, scripts, and tweets. I recorded, edited and uploaded videos of myself and others. I woke up early and wrote 1k+ words per day and turned it into a book. I funeralized my bio dad and stepdad within a year, which reconfirmed that life is but a vapor, and that time waits for no man.

Everyone is waiting on me. They don’t know it, but everyone my life and its work will touch, is waiting on me to perform, produce, and build a business.

The longer I underperform, the more people I let down.
For me to improve and my business to grow, I needed to find my tribe. I needed to surround myself with a group of people who were smarter than I, and who thought like me.

I joined the seanwes community July 1, 2016 and forced myself to be all-in for 60 days (instead of 30 so I couldn’t get my money back). Yesterday was day 60. I’ve wanted to cancel my membership a few times. I’ve doubted whether it was the place for me, whether I can be of help to others and whether others could or cared to help me. I don’t always say the “right” things in there; I’m still learning. Along with being introverted, I have a sarcasm and east coast air that doesn’t always translate well in text, so I usually just read what others write and stay quiet, but I return every day. I know as I settle further in, I’ll be of value to others, as they have been to me. For years I let the cost of entry deter me. I was right to be cautious, but wrong in being fearful; the experience has been priceless.

I tell you all the time to surround yourself with people who are on or above your level, people who match or exceed your ambition. I was a hypocrite in telling you that, because I wasn’t doing the same. I thought I could go it alone, and for years I did. After years of building what I thought was a business, 60 days into being a community member, it feels like I’m back to square 1, as though I did it all wrong for all those years. If I allow, I can let the thoughts of wasted years and time beat me down, but I don’t.

When you know better, you do better.
I shared in the last post that changes for Launch are coming, those changes are the direct result of investing in myself, my work, and ultimately, you.

If you have a hobby or passion you’d like to turn into a business, if you have a product or service you want to grow- find your tribe. I recommend the seanwes community of course.

Whatever you do, don’t do what I did:
1. Don’t not invest in yourself, first. (Double negative intended)
Find a course, person, or group who challenge and drive you, and jump in with both feet.
2. Don’t spend time being angry or worrying about things you can’t change, like “wasted years”.
Focus on what you can change and be grateful for the time spent learning what not to do.

Thank you for bearing with me as I found my footing.
Let’s get ready to Launch.

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Invest & Deposit

D E F I N E
When you deposit more money into your bank account than you withdraw, you always have money available.
When you spend more time investing in relationships and people than in things, you will always have a friend.
It’s the time of year when people make lists and check them twice, to buy gifts for people they love.
It is kind, loving, and gracious to think of others and to do things that you think will make them happy.
It is also worthwhile, lasting, and fulfilling to nurture relationships, to connect, and to invest.
From about senior year of high school until the year after college graduation, major changes and transitions happen. Boyfriend, girlfriend, and best friend relationships change; new people enter your lives, childhood friends move, you outgrow some people and others you stop hearing from. As new people enter your life, remember that they are worth more than anything you can buy. Cultivate relationships with people, spend more time than money, create more memories than bills.
Are you the person who is there for everyone else, but that no one is ever there for?
Have you ever wished you had a friend who treated you as well as you treat them?
If you know how that feels, be mindful that someone doesn’t feel that way about you.
Because in the end, it’s the people, the memories, and the relationships that make up a fulfilling & happy life.
Deposit.
Fill people up more than you drain them.
Invest.
Give to people before you take from them.