What Do People See In You?

I sat at the head of two, rectangle shaped tables, pushed together end-to-end, and listened to my class talk. There had to be 7 different conversations going on at once, and yet, I heard nothing. No, I hadn’t gone deaf- my mind, amidst an epiphany, had muted the noise in the room to allow me to process, and it was in that moment that I finally understood. I understood what my teachers, coaches, and mom had been saying about me all those years growing up. See, I was the kid; the student and athlete that my schoolteachers, dance teachers, lacrosse coach, and mom said didn’t work up to her potential. I didn’t know what in the world that meant, and for that reason, I hated hearing it. I never understood how I was failing to work up to something I’d never shown them I could do. So I just added it to the list of weird things adults said, but never bothered helping kids understand.
Years later, as I sat looking at my students, I saw in them what my teachers had seen in me. I could see everything they were capable of becoming, all their latent abilities, sparks that were waiting to be flamed into fire, all they could achieve and accomplish. My teachers saw in me a student who had the ability to excel, even if she didn’t have the desire. They saw what I was capable of achieving if I were willing to work harder; I wasn’t. They saw what could be. When I sat with my class that day, I saw the same thing in them, potential. As the volume of the room slowly turned up, I was overwhelmed with gratitude and knew that helping them recognize their potential and put great work into the world would be my work.

Try, Try Again

quote_by_leudrita-d464tdkI will be the first to admit that the toughest part of living your dream is the decision to start and sometimes, to start again.

Someone told me once that perfectionists avoid starting things because they aren’t certain they can finish it perfectly.

the_art_of_the_start I read this book once called The Art of the Start and I’ve learned to start, especially if it doesn’t cost me anything to try, start. The first attempt doesn’t have to be perfect. If it doesn’t work, I know what not to do the next time. You hear stories all the time of people who seem like they just popped on the scene or had overnight success. The fact is, they probably invested years trying and trying again, being frustrated, quitting, and returning to it.

If you have a goal or dream and it consumes your mind, keep at it. And if you’ve already tried, decide to try again. It only works if you work it.wpid-31666003600278724_nxnZZY6G_f.jpeg

Dr. MLK Jr.


Dr. Martin Luther King Jr      Gandhi           Mother Teresa               Steve Jobs

Those are people who changed the world, made impacts, established legacies.

But what if your goal or dream isn’t that ‘big’?

What if your dream will impact 100, not 1,000,000?

Or what if it only changes 10 lives?

Does that make your dream any less important?

Does it mean that you should not work hard to achieve it?

Dr. King’s “I Have a Dream Speech” was helping

his expressed desire of freedom

and equality for all.

He lived his life in service of others.

Whether your goals, skills, dreams, or talents benefit ten or ten thousand, they’re still important. They’re still needed.

In the midst of striving to accomplish your dreams, take time to serve others.

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I have felt this way before.

I know many who still feel this way.

It saddens me and motivates me.

There’s a fine line between encouraging and pressuring.

When people tell you they believe in you… believe them.

When others see how much potential you have… trust them.

When people celebrate how great you are… thank them.

It doesn’t mean you owe them anything or that you have to prove yourself.

Fear Not


I Apologize

It is so easy to encourage and pump people up.

          “You can do it”💬

                       “Chase your dreams”  💬

            “Take Risks”💬

I have told people those things; I have said those things to myself.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying them. 

I do think it is irresponsible to leave it at that. 

There are people who just need to be told they can do it; those people believe it and go after their goals. 

There are others who need more than a pat on the back or a team of cheerleaders in order to benefit.

I apologize for ever being the person who has encouraged you, but failed to offer guidance or provide help.

Let us begin again.

This is one of my favorite shirts. I no longer wear it but I loved what it said so I turned it into a pillow. “Young ideas are the new future”

It is one thing to be talented, it is another playing field to decide to use the talent. Passionate people, talented people, driven and ambitious young adults are the most powerful and inspiring people I have ever worked with.

Having to balance family life, education, and career goals are the usual tasks most people face. Not allowing the necessity to balance to be an excuse is the task of successful people.

Some people are born with talents while other people study and master a skill. However your ‘gift’ has come to you, do it justice. Muster up enough strength to put in the time, do the work, study your craft, take risks, and eliminate a fear of failure.

Start small if you have to.

Don’t be afraid to be invisible.

Keep at it.

We need it.

We need you.

Check out some young musical talent below. One you may know and one you probably don’t. That didn’t stop either one of them.