Keep The Main Thing The Main Thing

I’m like you. I say with confidence, “I can multi-task”. Because yes, I can walk and talk at the same time, I can scroll Instagram while eating cereal, and I can run four businesses at once. Those things may be true, but I can’t do them well. I can walk and talk at the same time because walking doesn’t take active thought for me, my body just knows how to do it. I can scroll and eat but I often end up with milk on my shirt or missing the bowl when I get into a post. I have tried to do all the things and failed.
What happened when I tried to do all the things, is everything suffered. I split my attention and each thing I wanted to learn, do, and start, got a fraction of me instead of all of me. The result from me giving a lot of things a little attention was none of them becoming what they had the potential to be. I had to step back and decide which one thing I wanted to focus on, which one thing did I want to see all the way through to fruition, first. I, like you, can do lots of things, I have lots of ideas and interests, and get excited to jump into new things. But as complex as we are, and as much as we are sometimes able to do more than one thing at a time, our best work is put out into the world when we focus on just one thing and do it extremely well.
“The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”  -Stephen Covey
As much as I love this blog and will continue to work on Launch as an organization, I had to make the hard and conscious decision to focus on writing. I am a writer, and for me to write books worth reading, I have to take a short break from everything else. It’s not easy, I’m writing this blog post right now riddled with guilt because I’m not writing my book, but I wanted to share why there hasn’t been anything posted here as well as encourage you to focus. Get the first thing done and then work on the next thing. Use your downtime to learn, practice, and indulge in your other passions, but buckle down and spend the majority of your time on the one main thing.
Talk soon.



Learning How To Stay Focused

You’re a creative person with a giving heart and big dreams. You want to be happy and successful, give back to others, and leave a legacy for your children and grandchildren. But, you don’t even know how to stay focused long enough to complete one task or check off one goal, let alone a life’s worth.
Focus is a multi-armed monster, and today’s arm is the concept of your quiver full of arrows. Archers keep their arrows in a bag called a quiver; they pull one arrow at a time, set in on the shelf of the bow, nock the arrow to the string, and focus on their target. To focus on what they’re hoping to hit, they silence the noise around them. They carry nothing with them that doesn’t improve their chances of success.
You, with all your dreams and talents have many things you like, movies you watch, people with whom you associate, and distractions; you must learn to quiet the noise. Turn down the volume of your life and only allow in people and things that will help you hit your target. The only things in your quiver must be things that will help you succeed.
I’m a football fan. I enjoy watching football and if I allow myself I can indulge in all of the talk that surrounds the game, teams, and players. From sports radio and tv channels to football Twitter accounts and friends and family, there’s no shortage of ways to satiate my football indulgence. This football season however, I have opted out. I decided to say no to all things sports related in the name of focusing. I am learning how to stay focused.
There’s nothing wrong with football, sports, or entertainment, but to remain focused, my quiver can contain only things that help me hit my target. Just because there’s nothing wrong with it doesn’t mean it’s something I need to spend time on right now. Besides, the athletes I’d be watching are already living their dreams. I, however, am not yet, and therefore must focus.
Before you decide that an inability to focus is your problem, make sure it’s not just a lack of target clarity. If you know exactly what your one (and only one at a time) target is, then focus begins by checking your quiver.
What’s in your quiver? If you have your sights set on a goal, a specific target, what you allow in your life’s quiver must not only help you hit your target, but it must not draw you farther from your target. 

The more detractors and distractions you allow, the farther your target gets and the harder it becomes to focus.The more distractions you allow, the farther your target gets & the harder it is to focus.

My example of football is a simple one because I can simply remove the people and things (arrows) that have to do with football and replace them. For you, whatever your target, removing the arrows may mean literally cutting off friendships, turning off your phone or notifications, or giving up something you enjoy for a short time.
The quiver test- does it help me hit the mark? Not will it in the future or could it possibly? Answer in one second, does it right now help you reach your goal? If there’s hesitation or the answer is no, remove it. You can justify why you should keep it/them all you want, but lying to yourself only hurts you.
Our world is loud and our lives are noisy. From notification lights and sounds, to people who won’t be quiet, our days are full of distractions. It is your job to filter the noise and fill your quiver, meaning equip yourself and fill your life, with only the people and things that will help you hit the bullseye. Once you do, you’ll have time to indulge in those distractions before setting up to hit the next target.
Focus is about deciding what’s important, consistently reminding yourself of your target, keeping your goal in mind, and training your thoughts and actions to do only the things associated with the task before you.

These car commercials have been knocking it out of the park lately with their slogans. First it was this, and now Mitsubishi has a commercial for some car I’ve never heard of, but at the end of the commercial is this picture, a bridge with the tag line, ‘Find Your Own Lane‘.

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Have you ever had someone have to tell you or remind you to Mind Your Business? Or Stay In Your Lane.

We’ve all done it, made someone else’s lives, business, or situation our own by poking our noses in, gossiping, or asking questions.

There’s the literal interpretation of it too, keeping your mind on your own business, your career, or life.

Finding your own lane encompasses both of those. Taking your own path, different from what others are doing means you have to be focused enough on your own stuff to not just notice that there is a different way, but to not waste time worrying about someone else’s lane or life.

There are many roads that lead to the life you desire. Be willing to find your own lane, focus on it, and mind your business.

Find Your Own Lane

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The Key to Success is…


Richard St. John summed it up in 8 words and although he includes the word work, each of those 8 things in the above picture, all roads point to work.

Beautiful-Typography-Design-Quotes-Creative-Examples-For-Your-Inspiration-11Trust me when I tell you that if there were an easier way to attain success, I’d be selling it out of a food truck.

There are factors; time, money, networking, but, Newton’s first law applies to success as well as objects. An object at rest remains at rest unless acted upon by a force.

To get your journey started, to make success more achievable, you have to get started. Work, and work harder. Be the force that moves you closer to your goal.